Wednesday, August 3, 2011

The Best Advice You Ever Got from a High School Authority Figure?

Earlier today, I tweeted the question, "What's the best piece of advice you ever got from a Principal or other school authority figure?"


There were a flood of interesting responses -- far more than I would have expected. 


For what it's worth, here's mine: my High School creative writing teacher Mr. Podas saw my passion, and how I suffered for it. He once told me that for every great thing I might achieve in life, I should expect to be greeted not just with kudos, but with an almost equal amount of scorn, insult, and seeming disgust from those around me. He was right -- at the age of 42, I've gotten plenty of applause and been called truly horrible things so many times, little of it surprises me any longer. 


There were too many responses to post them all here, but I thought I might share a sampling of what you had to say. Some of these are optimistic, some bittersweet, others hilarious. Hope you enjoy them as much as I have:

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Thanks to all who weighed in!!

A mother on her daughter's same-sex wedding ...


The following note came forwarded to me from my own mother, age 84, who lives in Minnesota and is a Quaker. Her Quaker friend Marie Knowland wrote this for her daughter and and Marianne and partner Michelle, who have been together over 20 years. Marie was unable to attend Marianne and Michelle's marriage in NY this month, but wanted to participate in the ceremony nonetheless. So she asked that the following be read at the ceremony:


August 5, 2011

Marianne and Michelle Wedding

Michelle and Marianne, as you enter this stage of your continuing commitment to each other, I am honored to address you on this occasion and celebrate with you your love and respect for each other.  I am aware that such a relationship has not always been accepted in our society and your honesty and integrity in how you have dealt with it is much to be admired. 

In the manner of Friends (Quakers) let me hold you in the light and bid you continue with my blessing.  May you enjoy the love and support of each other in a legal relationship of marriage for many years to come. 

Go in Peace, 
Mom 

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Kids, Teens and Empathy

Sometimes my tweets and Facebook posts are spontaneous. Often, though, I work ahead, looking for quotes and media items that fit a theme -- something going on in the news, a holiday, my own emotional or intellectual gnawing.

This morning, I found myself looking for quotes on listening and empathy. I came across this gem from Daily Show Executive Producer Josh Lieb, from his recent book I am a Genius of Unspeakable Evil and Want to Be Your Class President. It matches what I've observed on playgrounds and in classrooms, both during my own growing-up, as well as now in the behavior of my Godkids and their peers. 

I'm reminded that empathy doesn't just happen. It must be cultivated:
I am amused when goody-goodies proclaim, from the safety of their armchairs, that children are naturally prejudice-free, that they only learn to "hate" from listening to bigoted adults. Nonsense. Tolerance is a learned trait, like riding a bike or playing the piano. Those of us who actually live among children, who see them in their natural environment, know the truth: Left to their own devices, children will gang up on and abuse anyone who is even slightly different from the norm.